Home is Wherever I’m with You

Wednesday, 06 May 2020 14:59
In quarantine, tempers run short and the bills come piling in. It’s easy to stress and complain especially in the unknown. When we will this be done? When will it be safe to go outside? When can I grab happy hour with friends, if we can even afford it?

In my own home, I’m battling the temperament of an almost two-year old, and a teacher who is longing to be in his classroom. Our home is super open and has great flow throughout the main floor, but the problem is that there’s no privacy! There is only a front door and a door to the bathroom. We didn’t invest in doors! While my toddler is throwing a tantrum, my husband is trying to teach young minds lessons through the internet. The echoing of our toddlers cries because she doesn’t want to take a nap is probably the only thing from making his high school students stay focused – the noise in our house is constant, and we don’t even turn on the news.

When the toddler is finally asleep, however, then stop and read the news. Every day it’s something different. Do we really have to socially distance our dogs?? In the midst of this, I have a milestone birthday coming up. I wanted to take a trip. Then, when I realized it wouldn’t be safe to travel, I wanted a party. The party has been reduced to my husband planning a drive by celebration of cars honking, my dearest friends not getting out of their cars to wish me a happy birthday.

When all the noise calms down, right as I close my eyes, I can only hear that song by Edward Sharpe & The Magnetic Zeros. “Home is when I'm alone with you.”

This song is special to everybody, I think. In their own way... because most of us know what it’s like to be home, to be safe, to feel protected, to have reciprocated love that just makes me you want to shoot into the sky. When I hear this specific song, I think of everything that has once or currently makes me feel uplifted and high.

“Alabama, Arkansas

I do love my ma and pa”

As much as I am dying to get back to life, I wouldn’t sacrifice someone older than me or someone immunocompromised just to get those happy hour patio cocktails. I realize that in order to get through this pandemic, we need to put our own desires (for a birthday party, perhaps) on the backburner and work together. We need to wear masks; we need to socially distance. This isn’t a political stance, it’s a health crisis.

This song makes you think, "where is my home?" And we realize that we don't really have one. Home is about people, not places.

“Home is wherever I'm with you”

This pandemic isn’t getting in the way of life, this is life. And we are going to get through it.